me: i wrote one about your status and the entire conversation that followed.
she: yeah i pretty much figured that….
me: ok lol? ~qing ren~
she: I just don’t want you to feel some type of way because of my views on a certain subject. I’ve known all this time about u and Roz and I love you both for who u r. But I just don’t agree with it. I am still the same silly person who calls u wifey. Which I dont think hypocritical because its just jokes. I have nvr judged you or Aj for being what u r. So the same way I give you both respect I expect to receive it. Marriage is the part I disagree with not just being gay. We can have that convo at another time though.
me: i mean i don’t recall disrespecting you because i do understand people are entitled to their own opinions. if u feel disrespected i’m sorry. but stuff like “i accept WHAT you are” like i’m a human. what’s not to accept about that? i just feel hurt that you don’t get it. i’m just shocked i suppose.
she: I wasn’t saying that you did disrespect me I was just saying that I don’t treat you any differently because youre gay or bi so I dont want to be seen as anything other than your friend now that you have seen my status. And of course you’re human I wasn’t saying otherwise. I just didn’t know any other of saying your sexual orientation without saying those words exactly.
me: but the fact that you would think my marriage with roz is less than yours with kendrick.. i think that’s his name is why i’m hurt. you do see me differently. that is judging. you feel you have more of a right cause you’re straight. to me that’s the same as white people thinking they have higher right than a black person. fuck control descrimination is descrimination. as a matter of fact i think control def is out the window cause people that aren’t gay get accused of being it daily and treated like shit. so “hiding” doesn’t matter since people will make their own assumptions of you anyway.
she: I understand completely…but you are different love. Being gay, bi, transgender whatever the case IS different. But I believe that marriage is a holy Matrimony which is done before God. And if he doesn’t agree who am I to say any different? bashan: And I think that being mistreated like teased and bullied is horrible. No matter the reason. But ppl who just assume are asses anyway. I just ask.
me: and i feel like you shouldn’t ask cause it shouldn’t matter. and i understand it’s against your religion but you shouldn’t be disappointed in the go v’t for doing their job and recognizing that the laws they pass don’t have shit to do with religion. ~qing ren~
she: I understand. And just to clear the air the only time I asked someone were they gay was when we were in a small group who had to work together for the entire semester and rumors about him already existed so I just asked so our f’n work could get done. Lol
me: btw i saw on your status your thing about partnership. if gay people don’t have a recognized marriage they don’t have marital benefits. one can’t simply be written in the will and recieve stuff. nor can they make desicions for their partner when they’re hospitalized. that is why marriage is so important. people can get married by courts outside of churches. which is at least what gay people should be offered if a church is gonna reject them fine. but the gov’t refusing it is hypocracy and techincally illegal ~qing ren~
me: I’m reaching the point of drunk and rambling lol so I’mma stop for tonight. I think i’ve said all i can say.
she: Yeah my phone does that. But u definitely can leave stuff for people even if there’s no court ruling saying you two are together. Or if there’s no relations b/t the two.
me: but if family were to intervene their ruling would over rule the words in the will. cause FAMILY has a higher priority. so if the marriage is recognized they do become family
she: Although i dont believe thats totally correct. I understand what your saying. And then that should be changed whatever’s in the will goes
me: No i’m serious. Family can totally be like fuck you. You’re not apart of this family we want that shit. This ain’t gran torino. there’s no happy endings yet. just reality as is, aka stupid
she: hmmmm true